Becoming a mother also means becoming multiple professions, from the moment our children are born until the age when they no longer depend on us to survive, even if we always continue to support them. They become our priority and most of our time is dedicated to seeing that they lack nothing and receive all the love they need.
And sometimes it happens that, being so deep in that dedication to our children, we forget a little about ourselves and that feeling of "first he, that I can do my thing later", and without realizing that" after "it could never come. So no, mom. You also need to pamper yourself and dedicate yourself to yourself. I share what is "time for mom" and why it is important that all mothers have it.
Mom also matters
It has happened to many of us: you announce that you are pregnant and all of you dedicate attention, support and sympathy. Your baby is born and now it is he who interests everyone, in some cases it seems that we become invisible. It is normal, who does not like to see, carry and smell a newborn? They are adorable, they are small, they are a masterpiece that grew in your womb and that we can all contemplate now.
Now your baby is the most important and of course it is who we should dedicate as much effort and time as possible because it depends completely on us to be well. But in that way of new mothers, Sometimes we forget one thing: Mom also matters.
"When a baby is born, a mother is born." This is one of the most popular phrases about the moment we became mothers. And it is largely true, because for many the moment when our baby is born and we see and touch it for the first time, we really feel that we are already mothers. But what about the woman?
It is still there, although it is no longer in sight. It is present every day, but for a moment (sometimes very long) it becomes one of the last things we think of when we are mothers. But that woman also matters. It matters what you think, what you feel, what you need and what you want. Like any human being, it has needs that it must cover, and for that there is something that all mothers should have: "time for mom".
A few days ago, Mamen talked to us about how we should work on self-esteem when we became mothers. We must love each other, take care and pamper ourselves. Not only because we deserve it, but because we need it to be able to feel good.
What do we mean by "time for mom"
Broadly speaking is that: time for you. To do what? What you want. Whatever makes you happy. Whatever makes you feel good. What draws a smile on your face or makes you feel full in your heart. Of course, having our children and spending time with them also brings us happiness and much, much love.
But I talk about what fills you as a woman. Those activities that before being a mother, gave you joy and physical or emotional well-being. If you don't know where to start or what I mean by this, I'll give you some examples:
Maybe you were passionate about reading and now that you are a mom, you don't remember when was the last time you touched a book. Maybe you loved pampering yourself with creams, lotions and masks, but now your skin cries out for hydration. Maybe you liked to play a song and disconnect from the world, but now all you hear is crying or "mommy, mommy" all day.
Now, this is not bad, nor is it a complaint. When we are mothers it's completely normal for us to forget about ourselves. But that's why I write this article, so that we all remember that we also have to take care of ourselves. So we can find a way to have that "time for mom". And above all, so that We don't feel guilty or bad mothers for wishing time for us.
Why is it important to have it?
Because besides being a mother, you are human, you are a woman. And you need to take care of the woman. Pamper her, spoil her, feed her soul, her intellect, her body and her spirit. I'm sure of something: A mother who feels good is a better mother.
Think of a day when you had a lot of stress or didn't sleep well. How did you talk to your children? How patient were you with them? It does not mean that it happens to all of us, but when we are - men or women - stressed or tired, we tend to be more reactive and defensive because we feel overwhelmed.
Spend time a day or a few hours a week to do what you like or to relax, It can make big differences, not only in dealing with your family, but in dealing with yourself. Sometimes you just need something as simple as having a few minutes to meditate or to clear your mind.
If you have never had that "time for mom", I invite you to start today or this week. In the next few days I will share other articles with tips that you can follow to have it (sometimes this gets complicated) and ideas of things you can do during your time for mom.
And you, how much time do you dedicate yourself during the day?
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