Having a child is something that usually makes the whole family happy, and at the same time usually encourages acquaintances and strangers to advise you how to do better. Among all the people they can stand out the mother in law, who with all their good intentions tell you how to raise your child.
Some advise you in a very polite way and always being clear that they do it in case you want to accept the advice or it can help you. You would eat these with kisses. But others tell you because they think you have to do it as they tell you and hardly understand that you ignore them. These are the 15 times when you wish you didn't have a mother-in-law after having a child.
1. When it comes without warning
That you are with the baby who has just fallen asleep, just when you are going to take a shower, or at the time when you were also going to try to fall asleep for a while to rest a little, and the street bell rings. That is below, who comes to see his granddaughter ... and you can try to explain that it is not the time, that he will still tell you that "I am his grandmother, I just needed to ask permission to see her".
2. When he tells you that this is how he raised your partner
When he gives you advice and more advice and he realizes that you are not paying attention to him, or the rebates. Then take out the letter from the experience, from "I raised I don't know how many children like that and between them your partner". And if you fell in love with her, a sign that she didn't do it as badly as a mother ... come on, full-blown emotional blackmail.
3. When he tells you that you take him too much in his arms
That child where he has to be is in the crib, that you do not take it so much, that you leave him, that you will love him, that he will not want to be with anyone. And when you go and leave your baby in the crib she goes and takes it, be awake or asleep. She doesn't care, she's the grandmother, she doesn't have to ask you for permission to take it, right?
That is, children should not be caught too much in arms, if you are the mother or father. If you are the grandmother yes, the time it takes.
4. When he wants to convince you to let him cry
The same thing, that he sees you going to the minimum that groans or cries and tells you, without saying it, that he does not want him to become dependent on you, to see if he will later want to be with you all the time and not with your partner or with the grandmother. That you let him cry, that nothing happens, that children have to become older and independent, that He doesn't want to have a weak and dependent grandson all day from his mother.
5. When he tells you that you give him too much tit
That he sees you breastfeeding often, on demand, come on, and consider that that is too much. Do not give it so much, that it is every three hours, that when she was young she became like that and perfect, until the milk was gone and then they all passed to the bottle, and you just have to see the children so precious that he raised to verify that he did well.
6. Give a bottle, which was great for me
So how he sees him cry every two for three, how he asks your chest for everything: when he is sleepy, when he is hungry, when there are many people, when there are few people, when he has fun, when he is bored, when he is happy, when he gets scared ... it turns out that what the child has is pure vice and what you have to do is give him a bottle, so that he can also feed him and, if that, she does too. Because let's see if not how she will feed him when you go to work (which she already takes for granted that she keeps it).
7. When he wants to convince you to return to work so that you leave it to her
That he asks you every two for three when the discharge ends and he doesn't stop telling you how good a mother he was and how good the children are doing… come on, he sells himself as a candidate while he asks you about your mother and he goes saying how messy the woman should be, with hardly any time for anything. Come on Don't even think about leaving it with anyone but her, who has already told her friends and neighbors that she will take care of him.
8. When she tells you that she is very busy and that she cannot take care of the baby
Exactly the opposite can happen, that of those of "you come to see me, that I do not move from home", or what is the same: "I see my grandson if you bring it to me, that if not, no I see it ", and it throws you in the face that you will never see it. But then, when you could need her, she tells you that she won't be able to, that she has a lot to do, that she doesn't have time, or that she is very sick, almost on the verge of death (exaggerating, of course), and that when you work you look for life, because you can't count on her at all.
9. When he wants to convince you that he would be better in a nursery school
This usually happens if you don't start work and stay with the girl at home. Then it will seem bad that you do not work, that you do not earn money and that you live on your child's salary. He will start to say that where your granddaughter is best is in nursery school, with other children, that they learn a lot there and that your daughter is falling behind, that she knows the grandchildren of her friends and they are much more hustler.
10. When you already work and compare you with your daughter
So, when you start working, instead of telling you that she is proud of you because you are able to work and take care of your daughter, you catch her saying that how you work her son has to do a lot at home, that the poor don't stop, that is a great step, and that which is to admire is his daughter, your sister-in-law, who he works more than you and at home he also does more than you.
11. When he tells you that he is too old to wear a diaper
That the grandchildren of their friends all do it in the WC since the year or a little more and yours does not. That this must be your fault, that you have it so hooked on you, so dependent, that you are not even able to pee alone.
12. When he talks to your partner and convinces him of things
That your partner has been with her eating, or has simply stopped by her house for something, or they have spoken on the phone, and when you are together she begins to transfer her concerns based on what her mother has told her. That "I don't know honey, maybe we should do this, or that ...", and you look into his eyes and you see his mother saying it all.
13. When she tells you that the baby doesn't want to be with her because of you
That he has become so accustomed to you that he is all day "ma-má-ma-má-ma-má" and so for everything, that he doesn't even kiss him, that in the end he won't even know who his grandmother is, that The child does not accept being with anyone because you have done so.
14. When he tells you when and how you should punish him
In one of those family meals, your child makes a tantrum, or makes some kind of displacement to someone and she considers him disrespectful and tells you that, "But aren't you going to tell him anything? You should put him facing the wall, or give him a cheek. " "If I don't know how you are educating him ... you leave it to me for a week and I give it back to you well educated."
15. When he says that he eats everything with her
Children tend to behave genuinely when they are with their parents, and not so much when they are with other people with whom they have less confidence. That is why they usually eat in the dining room, or at the grandmother's house, things that they would hardly taste at home. Come on, at grandma's house they eat things that they don't like too much and they are surprised when they find out that in your house they don't: "Well, I don't know what food you will make, because he eats it here divinely."
And the others?
I have put 15 things, but surely there is more, because I am convinced that after these 15 you will comment more situations in which you would prefer not to have a mother-in-law. Do you dare to tell us? As minimum you will feel a little more understood and accompanied, which is not little.
