A few weeks ago we saw that when the father actively participates in parenting, the relationship suffers, and yet it seems that when it is the father who takes the reins of parenting, the couple lives happier.
This makes a lot of sense, and we could turn it around, since both the mother and the father are the ones who assume the main role in raising the children, with a secondary role on the part of the other, there will be fewer conflicts: delegate responsibilities to the other party and there is nothing to discuss.
That does not mean that there are fewer conflicts with the children: do not you think the scene of having had any discussion with the child, being "angry" and that Dad arrives and everything is games and laughs? And it is that the key figure of parenting is the one that has a greater and closer relationship with the son, but also the one that faces more conflicts and tensions.
In a study by Australian psychologist Graeme Russell on parents who were responsible for raising children by staying at home, it was concluded that most families find that the most notable advantage of the father being the greatest caretaker Parenting is that there is a better parent-child relationship, although this entails some tension and greater conflict, precisely because of its proximity.
It is logical, if we think about the demands imposed on the person in charge of caring for children full time. Mothers, on the other hand, see this greater tension as a kind of "de-romanticization" or correction towards a more realistic relationship between father and son.
Happy moms with parents who care for their children
But returning to the subject of the post, we will point out that in the studies carried out by the professor of Child Psychiatry Kyle D. Pruett with this type of "inverted role" families, it was found that women valued deeply not having to worry about quality, coherence or devotion of the person in charge of caring for their children. If it can't be the same, who better than dad, no?
It is most normal, not having to worry about looking for alternative caregivers, from inside or outside the family, something that always means a headache not only if our children will be fine with those other people, but also for the important economic outlay that involves many times.
Most of the time, the wives of the caring parents feel that her love and respect for her husband deepens (I wish this were also the case, always, in the opposite situation). And they feel especially happy to be showing their sons and daughters that they will also have different options to raise their descendants.
In spite of everything, I am in favor of that, whatever the main figure, the other is involved in what I can. Maybe we'll have some conflict between us, but we should demand that dad or mom get involved, since children are a matter of two and decisions, care and concerns should be. The most benefited? The children, no doubt.
In short, if taking care of children changes people, and changes us for the better, women will be happier with their partners involved in parenting who have developed that sense of fatherhood that gives the conscious and active care of children, valuing the effort involved. As I say, hopefully from the other point of view it will also be valued in its fair measure.
