Elsa Pataky's twinsA few months ago we talked about Elsa Pataky, the well-known Spanish actress, partner of Chris Hemsworth (Thor for children), because at that time she was interviewed in the ABC newspaper where she explained that at birth her babies were in skin-to-skin contact with them, that he nursed his children and that he collected with them. As usual in celebrities is not exactly this, we echoed his words.
It's been a few months and a few days ago Elsa posted an entry in her blog that explains what her baby's routines are, that is, what they do every day and at what time, and explains it as advice to start as soon as possible. I will talk about them below, but before entering it I leave you with the question of the title: Elsa Pataky's baby routines or Elsa Pataky's routines? Because one is not sure if he created them for the benefit of his children or for her benefit, in reality.
At three months upside down? No, not yet
Before beginning to explain the routines, he tells his readers that as babies grow many things change and that after three months, for example, they can already sleep on their stomachs:
After three months you can lie on their stomachs if they are more comfortable in this position, because they can lift their heads up well or after six months they no longer need to breathe them out.
I don't know where he will have read the advice or who will have explained it to him, but this is not really the case. Babies should sleep supine, and this is on their backs, but with their heads tilted, until such time as they are able to turn themselves, which is something that happens between 4 and 6 months, normally. That is, it is not we who have to put them in that position to sleep. It is they who, if they want, can do it when they know.
The routines (of babies) of Elsa Pataky
From that moment the actress goes on to explain what are the daily routines of her children. He wakes them up at 6: 30-7: 00 and from there they start a whole series of planned activities such as eating, playing for a little while and resting, all with their schedule and quantity. Now tire it a little so you sleep better, now do not stimulate it too much to catch the dream. Now that you eat a little to hold on for a while but not too much so that at night you are hungry, eat more and sleep through the night. And also, so that they sleep well, before dinner they play for a while so that they get tired, after the bath and finally dinner and at 7:00 p.m.
This is a brief summary, but if you are interested in knowing more exactly what the routines are, it is worth reading them directly from your blog.
They don't need them, parents, it depends
The impression that these routines leave me is a bit confusing. I see a mother who wakes her children with affection, caresses and soft voice, who plays with them, who spends a lot of time in their care, that provides them with moments of fun and moments of more tranquility and, while doing other things, He speaks to be followed with his eyes. But at the same time, I see a mother wearing an exaggerated control of your babies, as if instead of raising babies, he was taking care of robots, because of how mechanized and studied everything looks and because she is the one who decides when they sleep, controlling the "loads" of fatigue and fun and when and how much they eat, controlling the schedule of eat and the amount to sleep more or less as it seems better or worse. I mean, they are some routines created for the mother's tranquility, who happens to take control of the life of his two babies to take everything in order.
Actually, babies don't need routines like that. They ask for what they need at all times and they let them know. And it is the parents who, as they know their babies more, learn to understand their demands and needs. That is, babies do not need such stable routines, because they sleep when they need it and eat when they are hungry. This, of course, does not mean that you have to lead a chaotic life with totally different schedules every day, because a certain stability gives them peace of mind, if little by little they know what comes next. Not so much, not so little.
It is true that she explains that there are days when the routine is not followed to the letter because it is not always possible, and that obviously we have to adapt a little to babies, who are not robots, but I have the impression that She is doing well because her babies are doing well. I may be wrong and they are very valid routines for most babies, but I think of my children, my three children, and I don't see how establishing these schedules would have helped.
If they were sleepy, they fell asleep even if it seemed to me soon. If they were not sleepy, I could already put on a quiet little music and rock them, that there was no one to make them sleep. If they were hungry, it was impossible to tell them not to eat much to eat more dinner, they ate what they wanted and, just in case, a little more, and even if they ate a lot, at two hours they would wake up again no matter how tired they had gone to the bed. The game, did not have predefined schedule. We played with them when they were receptive and when you could, that among all the things of babies, you had to prepare meals, make beds and clean the house, normally with the baby on top, because that of continuing with the look like no.
Come on, it gives me the feeling that Sasha and Tristan are two pieces of bread compared to many babies and how happy they would be with their mother's routines as without them.
Are they disrespectful routines?
Many of us who try to respect the needs and learning rhythms of children are a bit reluctant to routines because they run the risk of forcing children to do things that they still do not touch or do not feel like. Something like taking control of their short lives before they begin to manage themselves with their innate ability to do so. Therefore, when you read these routines, you can get your hands on your head because of "My God, what control of the lives of your babies", which can lead us to think that you are not respecting the rhythms of your children.
However, reading what he explains, they don't seem disrespectful, at least not in your case. As I said above, I see a mother who spends a lot of time with her children and who gives them a lot of love and love, and children accept their way of being a mother well. It would be different if you explain the schedules, tell us how you do it and add that your children are having trouble adapting to these routines because they would prefer to eat more or less, or play more or less time, or sleep at other times. Then we could enter to debate whether it is better or worse to make use of schedules and routines or leave more freedom. Then I would say, at least me, that they are disrespectful routines with children who do not need them.
But as it is not the case, as she has various commitments that make her separate from her babies sometimes and as her children get along well, it seems like a good idea to have some routines so that the person who stays with them knows more or less, how to make children do the same thing they do with their mother. In such cases, it will even be positive for them. For a normal mother? Well, I say, it might be worth it think more about babies as children and individuals more than thinking of them as small robots to be continuously monitored.
