Yesterday we explained that the campaign has been launched in Spain "We are not vessels" against the wombs of rent or surrogacy, with the intention that this practice is not legalized in our country and that, in fact, it is not even raised by any political party.
The reasons are explained in this entry and focus mainly on the exploitation of women with few economic resources. However, there are countries where the economic factor is in the background and cases where surrogate mothers do so in an altruistic way, out of love, for helping a couple become parents and on their own decision: What if a woman wants to be a "vessel"?
The story of Tamara and Logan
In the photo above you have the image of a woman who has just given birth (Logan, the one on the right) and another who takes the baby of the mother, but who has not developed. It is a story that we already talked about at the time, but that is summed up in the high probability of having a very difficult pregnancy on the part of the one and the offer of her best friend from gestate for her baby.
There is no business involved, only friendship. Tamara had a premature daughter, of 25 weeks, and many associated problems and, although she wanted to have another baby, the fear of reviving the same thing again did not let her decide. Logan offered to gestate it and this is how this friendship story ended in that image.
The grandmother who gave birth to her grandson
Back in 2010 we learned about a woman who decided to give birth to her grandson. After her daughter gave birth to two lifeless twins and after a third baby with whom she suffered a miscarriage, the option arose that she gestated her grandson and thanks to it her daughter could be a mother and she grandmother.
We talked about something similar a few months ago, when a woman gave birth to her grandson, son of her gay son. Without a partner, and with a desire to be a father he had for a long time, he achieved his dream thanks to his mother, who implanted an anonymous donor egg fertilized with his son's sperm.
A somewhat rocambolesque story that ended her giving birth to her grandson and her son becoming a father, as was his desire. The child? I already said it in his day (it is my opinion, of course): while there is love, while there is a good relationship and while the child is well taken care of, the rest can be perfectly in the background.
The Spanish boy who was born in the United States
We also talked about this case in the year 2010. A Spanish homosexual couple decided to have a baby through surrogacy and for this they did their homework in the USA. where such practice is legal. Here there was money involved, $ 65,000 that was broken down as follows: 15,000 lawyers, 30,000 in the fertility clinic and 20,000 to the mother. That money, in theory (the 20,000) aims to cover the expenses and discomforts that may result from the fact of gestating a baby for 9 months.
Personally, if it were for money, if it were for the 20,000 dollars, I am not sure that I did something like that, because it does not cover everything that involves pregnancy, the symptoms, the lack of work, not being able to attend to your children and in general all the associated discomforts, and everything for later give birth and deliver the baby to other people. Come on, if a woman does it for money, I don't think it's worth it.
Women who want to do it
We live in a historical moment in which freedoms, although they are still very limited, are growing. People have more and more rights and, as long as those freedoms do not affect those of other people, it should be possible to decide. What is wrong if a woman does it of her own free will?
There will always be the ethical problem of the baby, the one that affects when talking about abortion and the one that arises here, when a baby is separated from the mother who has taken nine months in her womb. It is inevitable and is a very important factor for both future parents and the woman who must be pregnant (in reality it is a very complicated decision that should never be taken lightly). Should the law go into regulating this, if the two parties involved agree?
There I leave the debate open. In Spain, in reality, there isn't, because it's directly illegal: it can't be done. But when an important campaign comes out of nowhere to prevent it from being legalized, it is logical that the counterpoint appears and says the opposite: It is my body, Why can't I decide what to do with it?
