How many times have we heard other people say: "what envy you stay at home, surely you have a lot of free time"Well, yes, it's great to be able to stay in pajamas all day from time to time. But that of time? Mmm, it doesn't happen exactly like that.
It is common for people to think that mothers who stay at home do few things. Probably only mothers who stay at home truly know how heavy the days can be when you have children following you everywhere.
Therefore, A mother tired of reading comments about how mothers who stay at home "do nothing" decided to write an answer.
Anna Strode is a mother of twins and is popular on Instagram for sharing exercise routines in which her children are seen running and playing next to her while she exercises.
A shared post by Anna Strode (@ bubs2bikinis) on Mar 8, 2017 at 12:39 PM PST
Like any mother who stays at home, she has received several comments where people assume that by staying at home they don't work and make much less effort. Of course, because being 24 hours a day with children is not tired. We love him, of course, but it is still tiring.
And although he regularly ignores such comments, there was one that hurt him and decided to respond to that famous "mothers who stay at home do not work."
Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt. It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK…' Work ?! You think I don't WORK ?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me ?! Just to break it down… I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts We've learned. I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that !!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. In comments
A shared post by Anna Strode (@ bubs2bikinis) on Apr 7, 2017 at 2:54 p.m. PDT
The message is quite long so I will summarize the most important:
Last week someone made a comment on my page, and you know what? I get upset. I got very deep and although I try my best to stay positive, it hurt. Basically it said "I wish I could stay at home all day and exercise with my son, but instead I have to go to my job and WORK." To work?! Do you think I don't work ?! Do you think I sit at home all day fiddling with my hands? Do you think that two 22-month-old children let me stand with my legs up all day after doing my morning exercise routine? Do you think I am radiant with energy as a baby grows in my belly and frantically try to do my best to keep up with two children running in circles around me?
Later he explains that he only spends 20 or 30 minutes a day exercising while at the same time talking with his children, gives them something to eat and review lessons learned as new words or numbers from one to ten, trying to do his routine as best he can. allow.
She tells that he spends his days like any other mother who stays at home: cleaning diapers full of poop, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that is thrown to the floor even before being tested, trying to teach two little humans to share instead of biting, pulling their hair or pushing other and singing the alphabet.
Oh, and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee all day between two little monkeys who - guess what - DO NOT play happily and entertain each other all day? To let you know, the twins don't do that! Maybe when they are older, yes! I hope so, but not for now. I literally can't take my eyes off them most of the day. They are best friends, but they need constant supervision.
And of course, he says that he does all this because he loves to do it and stay at home does not mean that they are rich, which is another common belief about mothers who stay at home. He even comments that they have a small apartment in their backyard that they rent so they can have an extra income from time to time. He also comments on how he has struggled to grow his Instagram account, finding the time to record videos, edit them and write a post, in order to contribute financially to his family.
Before having babies, I worked in marketing. The pressure and workload were very difficult, but NOTHING compares to the demands we have as mothers. When someone assumes that my life is easy because they go to work and I don't, it bothers me a lot ... Please, I beg you, NEVER underestimate how much we work the moms who stay at home! We do it because we love it, but many times we do it with tears in our eyes, with our head in our hands crying and with a huge feeling of loneliness in the adult world. I do not say that I or someone works harder than others. What I say is that we ALL work hard.
Sometimes I get a little sad when I see that mothers criticize each other or make comments that can hurt or hurt those who lead a lifestyle different from their own. But I also understand that there are different points of view and although we may not agree on few or many things, we must do our best to respect them.
I have been in both situations and I consider that it's ridiculous to try to compare them or compete for who is the one who tires the most because they are not even similar. As a mother who works away from home, the feeling of guilt can be enormous. And as a mother who stays at home, loneliness and exhaustion sometimes become unbearable. But at the end of the day, we are all working mothers.
But it is important to remember that we are in the situation in which we are, we have something in common: the love for our children. And I think that should be the real topic of conversation with other mothers, not to envy or belittle what others do or not.
