"A cheek on time is not bad." Unfortunately, more than once we have heard this terrible phrase spoken by those defend this authoritarian method as another form of parenting and education.
Recently, American singer and actress Kelly Clarkson has reopened the debate by confessing in a radio interview that educates her children through "whipping on the buttock when they deserve it"But nobody deserves to be hit, and the fact of" having done a lifetime "does not justify such actions!
"My parents hit me and nothing happened"
Kelly Clarkson is a well-known singer in the United States and mother of two young children who does not hesitate to share with her followers through her children's instant social networks and daily moments related to her upbringing.
But recently, some statements by the singer in a radio interview and in which she stated that whip your children when they deserve it, have sparked controversy.
"I'm not talking about hitting without reason, or hitting hard. I mean a whip on the buttock"
And justifies this action with the fact that as a child, her parents also beat her and that she doesn't feel bad about it:
"My parents hit me when I was a child, nothing has happened to me and I feel good about it. That's why I also do the same "
But nevertheless, admit that publicly it is complicated to do so because people don't usually understand it and many disagree with the idea:
"When we go out, it's more complicated because there are people who think that this is not right, although I don't find anything wrong with whipping "
In addition, he states that he never hits a whip on the buttocks of his children without warning them previously:
"I always warn you first. I tell you:" As you don't stop right now, I'm going to hit you in the ass. It's ridiculous!".
Kelly repeatedly justifies this way of raising her children for the education she received in Texas, where she grew up.
"I am from the south, and there we receive whips. If I ever ended up in the principal's office, my mother gave him permission to hit me. I am a person with integrity and character so I think it went well."
Some listeners of the program described the scourges as a form of child abuse and something that takes you away from children by not being able to hear their needs. However, there are those who have defended this method of parenting and have even admired the singer's courage to confess something like this publicly.
Paste is not an educational method
Unfortunately It is still common to find people who defend authoritarianism and physical punishment as a way to educate children. And among the reasons they give to support this method is the classic phrase "it has been done a lifetime and we have not gone so wrong."
There is no doubt that the education of children is not an easy path. There is no "instruction manual" and only one way of doing things. In general, each family educates and breeds as they think is best.
But it is important that the message goes into society until it is achieved eradicate the defense of violence against children as another form of education.
Because the fact of teaching children some limits, educating them on what is right and what is not correct, or showing them the consequences of their actions, should not be done by resorting to punishments, cheeks or threats. Doing so implies that, as a parent, you have lost control of the situation and feel unable to resolve it in a truly educational and positive way.
But it is also that science has concluded that whipping or cheeks are not only not an educational method but have multiple negative effects on children, increasing the chances of becoming challenging, antisocial and aggressive people, as well as causing them problems of mental health and cognitive difficulties.
Also, hitting is a crime
Although all of the above reasons should be more than enough to refute those who defend the cheek as a positive and necessary educational method, we must also not forget that in many countries hitting is a crime.
In 1979, Sweden was the first country to establish a specific ban on physical punishment and mistreatment of children, and since then about 50 countries have followed in their footsteps including Spain, where it is a crime to hit a child.
The Penal Code, in its article 153 explicitly sanctions all types of domestic violence against children with "imprisonment from six months to one year or work for the benefit of the community".
For its part, France passed a new law a year ago that prohibits physical punishment of children and obliges parents to seek other measures to discipline their children.
"The adoption of this new law marks a very important commitment towards the protection against violence of more than 14 million children living in France. Ending cruel, degrading and humiliating treatment is an indispensable component of a comprehensive national strategy for prevention and elimination of child violence, it establishes the basis for a culture of respect for children's rights, safeguards the physical dignity and physical integrity of children, and encourages positive discipline and child education through non-violent means. "
Hopefully, as I commented above, society begins to become aware of what physical punishment towards children really implies, and stop justifying this type of behavior.
Hitting is not educational, it hurts those you love most And besides, it takes you away from your children. As parents, it is in our hands to seek positive and respectful alternatives, but also to refute with solid arguments those who insist on continuing to justify these actions.
Via Pop Sugar
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