Scolding our children is something we like or not, it is necessary. The goal is that through scolding the child knows that he cannot do everything he wants. That there are rules to comply with, that his conduct was inappropriate.
But there are ways and ways to scold. If we do it with love, we will make the child better understand our intention.
When scolding, we must make it clear that we disapprove of the behavior and not the child itself. We have to avoid telling him things like "you're bad" and much less insult or offend him. Of course, much less hit him. The scolding must be direct, short and instantaneous. We have to be firm and scold them at the moment they have done something wrong. We cannot spend the day reminding you of the episode.
You have to clarify why what he has done is wrong and allow him some time to reflect and understand what was wrong. Then make him act accordingly.
For example, if you insulted someone, then ask for forgiveness. Or if you have written on the wall, then clean it.
But remember, more effective than scolding is by contrast highlighting positive attitudes. That is undoubtedly the best way to educate them. Although they are not perfect, scolding is also necessary to set limits, limits that give them security and help create responsible people.
The intention is to transform the scolding into a positive and thoughtful attitude. Not in meaningless reprimand.
