When a book has this aggressive title whose central idea is: "the children are like Padrón's peppers, some bite and some not," arouses many misgivings, because it responds to the line so fashion of insulting children and try to scare the parents: "the little tyrant", "the dictator at home", "SOS: teenagers", etc.
Rosa Jové comments in her lectures, with great humor but forcefulness, that these qualifiers they are unconstitutional because they do not respect the dignity of the child, and that instead, we do not find expressions that criticize and humiliate the parents to the same extent: “they are hysterical who lose their papers continuously ”,“ they only see their children at night and expect them to bother little ”,“ they have no idea what their children feel ”,“ they let them do what they want so as not to bother teach them", etc.
But since it is not good to judge only by appearances, I have continued to inform myself more about the book with several interviews that I include below, and I have changed my initial impression quite a bit.
The author is Emilio Pinto Rodríguez chaired by the International O'Belén Foundation through which more than 5,000 cases of children with behavioral problems have passed and clarifies that "itching" or does not depend, mainly, on the education they receive from children and that although it cannot be guaranteed the result absolutely, a small child is more likely to receive a good education is not conflictive when it grows, or that is not excessively.
I have selected these interesting comments by the author on how we educate our children, the role of the tribe, limits, common sense and consumerism:
"You have to be clear that, to educate a child, lyrics are as important as music. And I explain myself. What we say as important is as important. how do we tell him. It is not the same to say to a child: "You have done the bed badly, you can do it better", that "you are a lazy person who does not do anything well".
"To educate we need the entire tribe. Educate the father, the teacher, the neighbor, the bus driver, the one who sells newspapers ... We all educate, what happens is that we are afraid of what others can tell us. The great failure of the school is to keep in mind that, for the first thing we learn in life, it is out of curiosity and children are now more curious about the technological world, which should enter the classroom to catch the student's attention. "
"Every time we convince ourselves more than the limit is necessary and overcome frustration too. Parents who want the best for our children should understand that the father is not a democratically elected position, thank God. In addition, we have to understand that being a father is sometimes being unpopular, because you have to get the best out of your son and, for that, you have to tell him not to follow his instincts, but his reason. A father has to worry when he thinks there is something wrong with his son. "
"There is no child like that, but I tell you that it is good to talk. Parents should supervise and set limits on their children, who do not watch TV or surf the Internet alone. "
"He current common sense of parents is well below than it was twenty years ago. The media are sometimes windows open to dumps. They tell us that money is earned by criticizing the other, that it is good to consume, that the one who has the most is good. Then the parents, immersed in that philosophy, buy the child 25 toys for Reyes, because they believe that their son will be happy, when what he feels is as if he had eaten 25 cakes. You can't assimilate them, and instead of getting bad in your stomach, it gets bad, somehow, in your head. "
"The problem is that we don't want children to suffer and we don't let them learn to overcome frustrations. If the dog dies and we put another in its place immediately, it will not give you time to assess the farewell. The book speaks of the pay, of the butler's syndrome, that is, of that father who is at the service of the son. "
Well, the author throws important messages for each one to reflect on our relationship and behavior with our children.
Mr. Pinto does know I think he doesn't know James Prescott's studies with 49 tribes from around the world and that they demonstrate that the little affective groups with their children and with very little skin-to-skin contact presented high levels of violence in adulthood, and yet the aggressiveness was almost nil among the peoples that maintained very close contact. The same is explained by Punsent in the documentary with hormones and neural networks of pleasure or pain.
That is, if we want our son to "not bite" as a teenager, let's start as a baby time, love and contact. The tyrant child is not born, but is made.
It is better prevent Then beg the Supernanny to come.
By the way, more than 15,000 copies have already been sold!
