Dr. Thomas Verny is a famous founding psychiatrist of the American Association of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and the author of another book that we have already presented to you for a long time: "The secret life of the child before birth."
On this occasion we will talk about: “The emotional bond with the child that will be born” that he wrote with Pamela Weintraub, a specialist in conscienca and personal growth. He has a third work: "The future baby, art and science of being parents" that we will leave for another day.
The book's subtitle clarifies everything: “A 9 month program to reassure, stimulate and communicate with your baby" And it consists of a job that lasts the entire pregnancy, with 47 exercises to be carried out by both the mother and the father (if present and wants) and that will turn the pregnancy into a much more positive, conscious and binding experience for all three.
I have both books and I recommend them. It is true that many of the statements made cause strangeness and skepticism years ago, but over the years the evidence is overwhelming: the child to be born is a person deeply sensitive, capable of establishing a solid relationship with their parents and with the external world from the mother's womb.
And here we have already shown several studies on the negative effects of stress and depression of the mother on the future life of the child and the opposite.
The authors argue that the prenatal life and the experience of birth are deeply determinants of the personality and aptitudes of every human being, and cite how innumerable musicians were exposed to the influence of music during their gestation, and that on many occasions characteristics such as self-confidence, tendency Depression and addictive behaviors are linked to experiences during intrauterine life.
But we don't have to be catastrophic either because good parenting and overdose of love can compensate for a cold or painful pregnancy and a bad birth.
The book is an opportunity to experience pregnancy as a time of personal growth and it gives us many tools divided into 9 months. But although we begin to apply it in an advanced pregnancy it also works and they explain how to accumulate the exercises.
The suggestions are varied: write a diary, work with dreams, relaxations, visualizations, music, dialogues with the couple, affirmations, tactile stimulation, verbal stimulation, free drawing, mandalas, play with clay (like the pregnant women of the Mater Láctea project ), breathing, ... And the most important thing is that they teach to combat negative thoughts, anxieties and fears.
All the exercises are very easy to perform and they are explained in detail. The truth is that practicing the book does not involve any kind of difficulty, but dedication and certain constancy.
The exercises vary according to the acquisition of more capabilities of the baby in the womb, so for example, in the fourth month the baby already has well developed touch and taste, and this aspect is enhanced.
They also mention the Tomatis method that Eva has spoken on several occasions.
According to the authors: “It is very likely that the baby that has been brewing while his parents worked with our intrauterine harmonization system arrives in the world with a curiosity and a state of attention superior to what is usual, with a powerful feeling of harmony and with the security of who love him”.
For this reason alone it is worth communicating with our son in the womb, either with this book or with any other technique.
