I confess very little to parenting gurus and above all the uncritical worship about them. Let's not talk about Estivill, whom I hate, or the varied super nannies who advocate letting children deal with their negative emotions to show them that we send adults. I mean the ones I identify most with my ideas and my way of raising.
In these times of haste and denial, in which parents struggle to give the best possible education to their children and love them but they work both too many hours to be able to be long enough at their side, times in which behaviorism has been stuck in the heads so much that it is difficult to recognize the primary and emotional needs of children, parenting gurus They are necessary to some extent.
Parenting books fill the shelves of shops and parents more involved, needing a guide as they raise alone and without "tribe" come to them to better understand their children, give them what they need and educate them with respect. And here, applause from me.
I have read Casilda Rodrigañez, Rosa Jové, Carlos González, Rebeca Wild, Adele Faber, Emilio Santos, Isabel Fernández del Castillo, Adolfo Gomez Papí, Yolanda González, Laura Gutman, Elizabeth Plantey, Meredith Small and all attachment parenting teachers. And I have learned a lot from them, but not as much as I have learned from other women, from other families and from children.
Some I like more, others less. Some of them have even had personal significance in my upbringing thanks to friendship or professional relationship. I have learned a lot with readings, conversations, courses and experiences. But not one of them is for me a parenting guru nor do they think they are considered as such.
With this I want to encourage you to expand your readings, to deepen and to learn with the experts, but not to consider anyone superior to your own criteria and your experience as fathers and mothers open to communication with children. Learning from the readings but above all from the children and other friendly families.
You always have to know how to keep your critical spirit and your ability to focus on the idea that there is no greater teacher in life than yourself or greater learning than that of shared, intense and dedicated life, to your children. There are no prophets, there are no breeding gurus. But reading them helps to find our own way.
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