It has already happened. One of the most critical periods of the school, the adaptation period, has already finished in most schools, leaving better or worse taste for children and adults. Now, when assessing the success or failure of that period, some children demonstrate daily that the period has been insufficient for them, while others have entered well within a few days.
The logical thing would be that, seeing that many children need more days, next year the adaptation period would be longer on average and would more attend to the needs of the children. However, I doubt that much is changed because in the end it is not that in schools "listen" so much to children.
And if on top of many who would have to fight for change, the parents, instead of complaining because the adaptation period is short, complain about the mere fact of doing so, I don't even tell you. Today we are going to talk a little about them, about parents who wish there was no period of adaptation to school.
Before we all entered the bag and nothing happened
I had been quite calm and happy with the general climate in relations between parents and children, I guess because I have agreed with people who see life a little like me, being rather optimistic about the future of our society, when at the beginning The period of adaptation with my son I realized that things have not changed so much.
During the days of adaptation I heard several phrases from the parents in reference to the entrance of the children and I was left with one related to the period of adaptation: “I do not know what they do this, if before we all entered the bag and nothing happened“.
Then I threw back my memory until the day I entered school and remembered that I was 4 and a half years old. At that age, most children weren't crying, although there was one who came in as if they were killing him, scaring everyone in the class. At that age the period of adaptation would have been beneficial, although without it many entered well. Now the children they start with 3 years and some with still two. It is logical that many children cry.
Then I thought of "nothing was happening" and asked myself "What will you mean?" Is nothing wrong is that we cried and you will calm down? Is it that nobody cried, something that is false? Is it that no child was traumatized? How do you know, know all the children of yesteryear?
Well, the truth is that I do not know what he meant, but considering that we were older when entering school and that the prevailing educational style of “before” was the authoritarian, with many children already taught to shut up and be submissive, it may well be that the procession was inside and that we decided not to show our true feelings for fear of reprisals (better not to scream, better not to cry, lest they punish me or beat me).
As children are now allowed to show their disagreement and emotions more than before, children now are more spontaneous and have less trouble crying and crying, because now few parents limit the expression of feelings in the same way as they did. In our childhood.
“I have told the director that I don't like this period of adaptation”
On the third day of the adaptation we met a mother who the day before, seeing that her son was going to spend an hour and a half crying, went to complain to the principal of the school in reference to the period of adaptation.
"Logical", we think, is a very short period in which we leave the child alone, without being with him for the first few days sharing space. So, when we thought he was going to explain to us what he had told the director that the adaptation period should be longer and more flexible He told us that an hour and a half was very little time and that, surely, after that time his son would stop crying and be calm. Come on, she said she always cried home because she hadn't had enough time to calm down.
Well, with this argument he went to speak with the director, expressing his complaint and looking forward to Monday, the day when his little tearful child was going to enter at nine in the morning to leave at five in the afternoon. According to her, that day would be beneficial for her son because she would have time to calm down and enjoy school.
I do not say no, what time to calm down, in eight hours, surely a child has, but from there to say that this is ideal, from the beginning, for a child of 2-3 years, because it goes a long way. If in an hour and a half many left asking “where have you been” to their parents, I don't want to imagine what would they have asked after eight hours.
A few days later, taking advantage of the fact that we saw the director for another topic (which I will tell you), we let her fall that the 3-day adaptation period seemed short and we would have preferred something more extensive, more adaptable to each child and with the possibility of being present with him. At least with our words the balance could be compensated a little after a mother, or perhaps more than one, told her that “before this nonsense was not done and nothing happened to us”.
