Yesterday we touched on the theme of shaken or shaken baby syndrome and today I wanted to rescue him again to treat him a little more in depth because of how serious he is and how easy it can be for a father or mother to lose his oremus If your child is to cry and cry.
The reasons that make babies cry for a long time (say more than half an hour) can be diverse, the most common being called colic. Whatever the reason, the parents try to calm the baby in every possible way: changing the diaper, the clothes, rocking him, feeding him, walking him, singing, putting music on him, changing the environment, changing his posture, etc.
The thing is that whatever you do, you can't calm the baby and as time goes by patience begins to run out until it reaches a dangerous state in which the mother or father are about to lose their mind and explode.
At that time the risk for the baby is high, as there are parents with high control of their actions in times of anger or anger and others less able to stop. This control is closely related to the physical and mental state and, if we consider that recent parents tend to sleep little and spend a lot of time with their child, with little chance of evading the mind with other stimuli, the most common is that even People with enviable patience get to collapse.
I remember some afternoons of my first son's baby, with crying as the only soundtrack and doing my best to try to calm his suffering. My patience then was possibly less, my knowledge about babies too (and I didn't understand why I cried so much) and I remember the sound of her crying continuously entering my ears while mom was taking a shower or because she gave it to me because she had reached the limit and I remember the sensation of my body secreting adrenaline to enter the flight / fight phase. At that time I began to feel like exploding, something that never happened because my rational part came (luckily) to control my actions.
However, not everyone has a rational enough controlling brain and there are those who, as we saw yesterday, end up damaging the baby by shaking and shaking it.
What to do to avoid reaching those extremes
If a child cries enough to end your patience and you feel that you are about to lose control of the situation, run away from it. Give the child to another person and go to a place where you can recover your sense and calm., doing what helps you to do it (shout, run, jump ... whatever).
If instead you are alone (or alone) with the child and there is no possibility of giving it to anyone to take him in his arms, he also runs away. Leave the child in a safe place (the cradle, for example) and stay away a few meters. Don't lose sight of it just in case, but keep it away while regaining control.
I know it sounds strange to recommend that a father or a mother let a child cry alone, but when it comes to his life, it is better to cry a few minutes than to have to regret a brain injury or something worse because one of the parents has lost the Control the situation and start feeling overwhelmed.
